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In Memorium......


In Memorium......
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Copyright: Barry Johnston (barryvj171) Silver Star Critiquer/Silver Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 37 W: 11 N: 68] (369)
Genre: People
Medium: Color
Date Taken: 2005-03-29
Categories: Decisive Moment
Camera: Sony DSC-F717
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Date Submitted: 2005-03-31 20:37
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Daniyel Gordon Johnston 30th December 1984 to 29th March 2005. (aged 20)

This is my son. He committed suicide on Tuesday night by hanging himself. He was suffering from severe depression which he just couldn't seem to get past. He was a nice young man, very respectful and well liked by all. Not even his closest friend new of his ambition. He had a history of THC (Marijuana) use, and couldn't seem to shake it off. After a few things happened recently, (which I cannot mention here) he took his own life. I was with him for the last half an hour of his life, while they tried to resuscitate him, but all efforts failed.

Daniyel, my Son, I know you have gone to a better and safer place. No-one can hurt you anymore. I know you were in a lot of pain, but no more. I don't know what to say, but I know we will be together again one day. Until that time, you will be forever in my heart and my mind. Words cannot express my grief at this moment, but I will miss you my son. Rest well Daniyel.

I Love You and will Love you Forever.

YOUR Dad.

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thank you All, for your Love, compassion and prayers at this terrible time in our lives. I am amazed that people, even on the 'far side of the world' feel the grief at the loss of our son. I don't know where to begin, but once again, Thank you; Thank you for your Love.....

Daniyel will be cremated at 11:00am on Friday 8th April (Perth time).

Barry and Sharon Johnston.

Yesterday was the funeral of my late son. I can honestly say that I have never been so sad, I have never shed so many tears in all my life. Over 250 people attended the service. I don't think that Daniyel knew how many people cared for him, or how many people would have gone to the ends of the earth to help him. But he couldn't see this. I have very mixed emotions as I write this; deep sadness, anger, frustration, disappointment, and I am sure there are a few others, just can't think of them. There are a lot of "What ifs?", but nothing I can do or say will ever be of any help. As a father, I have to be there for the rest of my family. There will come a time when I will grieve no more, but I will never forget. The loss is so emmense. I just hope that some good can come out of all the madness; that some sense wil be found and some lessons learned. Thank you TL members for being there in my time of need. I will never forget you all. Posting the picture on this site has helped me grieve, and come to terms with everything. I think in life we have choices. My son made his choice. It may not have been a good choice for us that are left behind, but at the time it was a good choice for Daniyel.
May God Bless Daniyel and all of us.
For Daniyel, there will be no more aging; no more pain; no more decisions; no more sadness, and as you dwell in the house of the Lord, We will love you forever.
Dad XXX

Update: 26th October 2008
Wel, it's been a long three years since Daniyel Passed away, and the good news is that I have survived....just, not without a few big changes in my life. I sold up everything in Western Australia, properties etc, and moved. I now live on the outskirts of Melbourne, Victoria and have been here for around 2 1/2 years. A big change, but a good one. Have made new friends and met some wonderful people in my travels. Although I have not posted here for a long time, I still am very active in photography. I bought all new camera gear, changed make and everything... new lenses etc.
As for Daniyel, I still (and always will) miss him very much. Life could be so much different, better or worse I am not sure. For now, I survived and continue to live life as normally as possible.

All for now,
Barry
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Barry you have my deepest sympathy at this time of your tragic loss.

Peter

May you find comfort, peace, and solace in your time of grief. Depression is such a serious, brutal, and stealthy attacker, and many don't understand its depths or its power. God bless and comfort you and your family.

To you and your family, my most sincere sympathy in this time of grief... I hope that you will find peace sery soon.
Genevieve

To you and your family Barry, my sincere sympathy at this time of your tragic loss.

Sweety

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  • nova Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 2733 W: 263 N: 864] (8653)
  • [2005-03-31 21:24]

My deepest sympathy Barry! You made me cry! We just lost an employee also at the office who has decided to kill himself with drugs...he was 20 years old too,very charming and well looking! So young,so unhappy...so sad for us! Thank you for sharing this with us!

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  • tsumeb Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 308 W: 58 N: 269] (2122)
  • [2005-03-31 21:35]

Sincere sympathies Barry. I believe posting Daniyel's photo here is part of the healing process for you. It was a very strong thing to do in your time of grief. I have a son born in December 1984.

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  • Isabelle Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 180 W: 51 N: 89] (1126)
  • [2005-03-31 22:28]

God bless him, you and your family, Barry.
I pray for him, for you.
My deepest respect and sympathy.

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  • Lotus Gold Star Critiquer [C: 74 W: 0 N: 7] (262)
  • [2005-03-31 22:34]

Très touchant... séparation brutale, toutes mes sympathies Barry.
Hélène

Mr Johnston, you show much love for your son regardless! Thank you for your heart-touching note and for reminding me this day the real meaning of love.
Please accept my condolences to you and the rest of your dear family.

Dear Barry
Please accept my sincerest sympathy to you and your family at this most difficult time of your life, you and your family will be in my prayers tonight. God bless you Sir

Barry, you have my deepest sympathy for your profound loss. I hope that you and your family can find peace and comfort.

Barry,

You have my most sincere and deepest sympathy at this time of your tragic loss.

I am sorry to hear this and hope time will heal the wound.

God bless

Hartanto

Dear Barry: Peace to you and your family and you son.
From Silverraven in Canada

To you and your family members my deepest sympathy at this time

Marleen

Barry
im sorry, things like this happen, and to the good people, is not fair, is really sad, God works in mysterious ways, and always for better, if u need something here i am =) i hope youre better, hugs and condolences.

Alonso Elizondo

My heart goes out to you and your family during this very tragic time. Although I never had the opportunity to meet Daniyel
what I heard of him was he was a warm and loving person and hopefully those memories will help you to get through this difficult time together.
Love and thoughts - Karen (Your Friend)

Please accept my sincere condolences in this troubled moments ,may you find solance with the passing of time.

Manny(the pork) Carvalho

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  • alagoa Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor [C: 1258 W: 97 N: 9] (0)
  • [2005-04-01 9:00]

Please accept my deepest respects and sympathy to you and your family. I do not know of whatever moment could cause more grief that the loss of a son or a daughther. Our thoughts are with you and so are our prayers.
Ana

Barry, to you and your family my sincere sympathy at this time of this tragic loss.

Wow Barry, I can't imagine anything worse than what you are going through. There is nothing worse than being unable to control the things that happen to our children. I applaud your attempt to reach out and keep the memory of your son alive. I am with you in thoughts and prayers. God's peace, Brent

Oh Barry. What a shock. Are we not spiritual beings visiting Earth to have a human experience? My love and prayers to you and all those close to Daniyel. Kevin.

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  • Miqra Gold Star Critiquer [C: 865 W: 0 N: 0] (0)
  • [2005-04-01 12:12]

MY dearest friend, I am so sorry to get this bad news, let me share this with you, maybe it will help some, someone once said: "Grief is the price we pay for love" The only people who escape grief are those who've never really loved.

In John, Chapter 11, when Jesus arrived on the scene, Lazarus was dead and Martha was upset because He didn't come sooner. She wanted to know, "Why, Lord?" It's the question we all ask. And what was His response? The Bible says that sitting down among the mourners, "Jesus wept." And when He did, He made it okay for us to grieve too!

How do we mourn? Author, Melody Beattie, says, "We do it awkwardly, imperfectly, with resistance, anger and attempts to negotiate. We flounder through kicking and screaming until we reach that peaceful state called acceptance."
Tears don't represent a lack of faith my friend; they just mean we're human. The One who gave you love, understands sorrow and loss - that's why He gave you tears, and I'm sharing those with you tonight, Please know that I care and will be praying for you all.
Huggzz
Miq Miles (South Africa)

Your note is very impressive Barry, I got tears in my eyes. This is the moment each parent on the world is most afraid of... When your child is leaving earlier than you.

Please have my deepest sympathie, and may your family and friends be helpful to support the immense pain.

Viviane

At moments like this I never know what to say. I am crying. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  • Quark Gold Star Critiquer/Silver Workshop Editor [C: 1339 W: 10 N: 29] (66)
  • [2005-04-01 15:35]

I'm very sorry to hear your message and it's good to share it with "our members" here, Barry, my sincere sympathy to you and all the people around you......

Dear Barry..

Words fail me through my tears as i read of the tragic loss of your son.. we can all only imagine the pain you and your family must be going through and i know all of hearts are heavy for reading this.. i know that nothing can truly console you in this terrible time of grief but i deeply hope that knowing the hearts and souls of this entire community are with you might bring some comfort... they say the good die young and often it's so tragically true... depression is a terrible distructive thing that i'm more familiar with than i can say... but i know there's an extra star in the heavens shining down and a soul at peace who deeply loves you and knows he is deeply loved...

With a warm embrace and my deepest sorrows..

Ayda

In front of this tragic loss... my deepest sympathy,
From Buenos Aires, Argentina.
Fernando.

sincere condolences to you and family in the tragic loss of your beloved son. I hope that as time passes, you will be able to understand why such a terrible thing should happen.

May God bless you and comfort you in this time of over whelming grief. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. My sincere condolences...

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  • loumi Gold Star Critiquer/Silver Note Writer [C: 58 W: 1 N: 20] (260)
  • [2005-04-02 12:38]

Mr. Johnston,
Please accept the expression of my deepest sympathy. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
People from all over the world are with you in this very difficult time.
Very sincerely,
- Chris/Canada

Barry, may God ease your hour of sorrow and surround you with His love.
Thinking of you and sincerely hoping that time and warm memories will help to ease your sadness.
My prayers and sincere sympathy are with you and your family at this time of great loss.
Liz

No man on Earth, should ever have to bury his own child. Your pain, is great; you loved your son greatly, and I don't know how to console your hurt.

God bless you
-Bart

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  • tanbinh Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Note Writer [C: 349 W: 1 N: 53] (3156)
  • [2005-04-03 8:15]

toute ma compassion.
tanbinh.

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  • thunder Silver Star Critiquer [C: 39 W: 0 N: 4] (186)
  • [2005-04-03 9:35]

you have all my sympathy. Julien Switzerland

Barry and Sharon,
I'm sorry to hear about your lost. I'm sure in his depression, he still knew he was loved.
My sympathies,
Richard

So sorry to hear of your loss. Take comfort in the knowledge that he is now at peace and treasure the good memories you have of him. I sincerly hope and pray that sharing your grief in this way may lighten the burden on you and your family.

Lance Green - South Korea

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  • Cloete (0)
  • [2005-04-03 13:13]

Our thoughts and prayers are with you guys in this time.
Jannie Cloete
South Africa

God be with you.Please receive my sincere condolances from Botswana.

I feel so sad at reading this, so sad, he was my age, I'll be thinking of you guys on Friday.

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  • Werewolf Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 4127 W: 403 N: 4515] (26142)
  • [2005-04-03 14:43]

It a cruel history! I can't help but just give you my condoleance. It's more tragic at this age and without a natural cause. Your words are very touching. Shure he is proud of what you tell here!
Greetings...

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  • jimzzz Gold Star Critiquer/Silver Workshop Editor/Silver Note Writer [C: 159 W: 18 N: 38] (493)
  • [2005-04-03 21:21]

My sincere sympathy Barry. I send to you all my love in this terrible time for you and your family. God bless you and your family.

Sorry to hear about your loss, Sharon & Barry... Please accept my condolences.

You both really honor your son with these words and photo, please accept my condolences and I wish you both strenght for the future.
With deepest sympathy,
Richard

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  • Saiz Gold Star Critiquer [C: 909 W: 0 N: 0] (0)
  • [2005-04-05 16:06]

Toutes mes condoléances sincères et beaucoup de courage
pour vous et tous vos proches qui l’ont aimé.
Antonio

Barry and Sharon, my deepest sympathy and love to you at this tragic time. Nothing is more devastating than to loose a child and the greif is unimaginable, unbelievable.....I am so sorry and pray you will recieve comfort from the many words written here from your friends at Treklens. May you receive peace....Kat

thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

very nice dedication.

~liz

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  • zto Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 946 W: 120 N: 59] (262)
  • [2005-04-07 3:50]

My hart goes out to you and your family Barry and my prayers are with you and your son. My deepest conolences for your tragic loss. No words can describe what you feel at this moment and i can only hope that one day you and your family will find peace at hart again. My thoughts are with you.

xxxxxxxx

I know, today is a very very difficult day for you and your family. Try and remeber, your son is in a better place now, watched over by the angels. I can not give much comfort in this terrible time but you are in my thoughts an in my hart.

Sorry to read this Barry. Wish you and your family strenght in the coming days.

WALTERito

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  • LadyO Silver Star Critiquer [C: 27 W: 2 N: 7] (174)
  • [2005-04-09 22:13]

I lost a brother 15 years ago. He was young but took the same decision than your son. I always thank God he wasn't my son : being her sister was hard enough at that moment. But what I do since that time is living and feeling twice, for me and for him.
I'm sad for you and for him but I'm happy that you shared all this with us. God bless you and God bless Daniyel.
Yann - France

I see this right now and I'm sad to see what was happend :(( It is worst thing what can happend in someone lives :((( Please accept my sincere condolences in this troubled moments.

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  • Janice Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 3266 W: 267 N: 7733] (32978)
  • [2005-05-14 22:41]

Dear Barry and family,
My deepest sympathy to you all. Here I am a month late, but my prayers are that the pain is diminishing and your happy memories staying.
I thank Jesus for your faith and for your love for Him. Only He can sustain you at this time.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Good bless you all,
Janice

Barry sorry for your loss at this time of your life.God bless Johnpaul

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  • Biance- Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor [C: 517 W: 80 N: 29] (165)
  • [2006-03-01 2:15]
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Barry, I truly feel your pain... death is inevitable and that's the tragedy, we all have to feel it's after effects one time or another. We had a presentation at our school today, because a girl died of unknown reasons in December, she had a head-ache then a few minutes later she passed out, and she was pronounced dead four hours later. Luckily she saved four other peoples lives by donating her organs, she had signed a release form when she was ten, she only lived to see sixteen... it pains me to realize things like that, even though I did not know her, her Father's tears really went right to my head, and released so many emotions. I resent death, and I truly sympathize your pain, as I have lost some-one exceptionally close to me in October... my life has changed completely, and I will stop grieving one day, but I will never forget. My best regards to you and your family, it's wonderful to see you have accepted your sons passing, and that is the most important thing of all.

Best regards,

Biance.

Suicide is big accident. I feel very sorry for you guys. World is cruel place sometimes!

I found this as I added a few things to the memorium theme. I work with alcholics and familys and this is sometimes what happens. I have no idea why some people recover and some don't. I have lots a few friends and some family members to addiction.

My heart goes out to you and I encourage you to take this pain and turn it into way to help others. Your experience can help another family that is going through this! In that way Daniyel's memory will live forever!
God Bless!
Linda

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  • Freddie Gold Star Critiquer/Gold Star Workshop Editor/Gold Note Writer [C: 1443 W: 108 N: 1155] (6323)
  • [2007-03-19 4:41]

Hi Barry!
It is heartbreaking to read your note and see a pic of a fine young man. It is sure a good idea posting his pic here coz it helps a lot.
Take care,
Freddie

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